So you know how I had eye surgery last weekend? One of the people I called to ask about eye doctors was Colin, and of course he didn’t pick up his phone. He calls me back hours later, when I’m already in the cab on the way home, and I had my roommate talk to him so she told him that I was in the ER and needed to get surgery the next day.
Before my surgery on Sunday, he texts asking if I’ll be working (um hello, what part of “i need emergency eye surgery” did he NOT get?) so I just texted back saying no because I’m going through surgery soon. On Monday, he IMs me to ask about how I am and says that he’d call but he left his phone at home. I chat to him a little but my eye gets really sore so I tell him to call me later if he wants to chat, and he says he will.
I don’t hear anything from him until Friday, when he IMs me again, this time with “Hey sorry I didn’t call, I’ve been really busy at work. Hope your eye is recovering well.” The moment I read it I got really annoyed and kinda mad, and just ignored it.
What the fuck? One MAJOR pet peeve is people who pretend they care but don’t really. Like fine, you don’t have to care about me, but PLEASE don’t pretend like you do just to make yourself feel better!
On top of that, when I was talking to my BFF about it yesterday when I was at hers, she was then like “If I tell you something…will you promise not to get mad?” I was a little wary, but replied “Well, I won’t get mad at YOU”. I kinda had a feeling about what she was about to tell me, and I was right: “One of the major reasons I stopped hanging out with Colin is because he would kind of do things that someone who has a girlfriend shouldn’t do. Like, we’d hang out at his apartment or whatever and I’d get really sleepy and pass out for a little bit, and he’d massage my back and go under my bra…so when I wake up I’m like ‘Ok, I’m gonna go back downstairs’ [to her apt - they lived in the same building for a while]. And not only that, but a lot of my friends were like, ‘Why is Colin stalking you? He must like you!’ and I’d be like, ‘No, he’s dating my friend!’ and people didn’t really believe me.”
After that, I didn’t quite know what to say, since the whole confession came out after I said that even though Colin was a crappy friend, he was a good boyfriend for a while. “You’re not mad, are you?” my BFF asked me. “Not at you, don’t worry. I trust you and you’ve never given me any reason whatsoever not to!”
So as it turns out, he wasn’t a good boyfriend, and isn’t a good friend, and now just pisses me off. What my BFF told me is more embarrassing for me than anything, because clearly I trusted him when I shouldn’t have. My judgement was SO off! Ugh.
I think I may just cut him out of my life entirely. He is so not worth it. And as for the “I’ve been really busy with work” excuse, Jake Ryan has been commuting all the way to Jersey and back everyday this past week and I’ve seen him 3 times and he’s called every day. And if HE isn’t busy, then I don’t know who is. I’m sorry, but I’m not buying the work excuse anymore. What an asshole! (Colin, obviously, not Jake Ryan.) What the eff was I thinking??

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November 23, 2008 at 5:33 pm
dater x
girl, cut him out! you don’t need to have him in your life anymore. and after what your friend confided to you, it’s the right choice. i think if you ever brought it up, he would just deny it.
November 25, 2008 at 8:53 am
JenBun
He was SO not worth your time. And now you know, and he doesn’t deserve to even have you as a friend– he doesn’t care enough to be graced with your wonderfulness!
Now you know. And you know never to look back.
Especially with the wonderful Jake Ryan!!!
November 26, 2008 at 1:47 am
AJ
I too learned the hard way that no one is too busy for anybody. We MAKE time for the people we value in our lives. I dated an ice cream salesman who gave me the “I’m sooo busy” crap, excusing him from calling or visiting. Now I’m dating a fellow who’s the CEO of his company, and we talk every day, and have lunch or dinner at least twice a week. Leave this rat Colin alone and find yourself a guy who values you and your time, he’s out there.
November 30, 2008 at 2:23 pm
Larissa
Go with your instinct on Colin, but he sounds like a waste of time and energy. You deserve better!