
Round 2 of answers, questions on this post. (If any of you have more questions for me, leave a comment on that post or here!)
Little Miss Matchmaker: Who is your perfect guy? Write a list!
Oh wow. I feel like they are generally the same things every girl wants, but here I go:
- Physically: Tall, around 6′, give or take 1.5 inches (I love tall guys), nice hands & arms & shoulders, good weight for their height (not fat but not skinny either, some muscle tone would be nice), good hygiene (this is a MUST), great smile
- Keeps me on my toes mentally – I love when a guy knows more things than I do and I can learn from them, but he must not be condescending or patronizing in any way, and also open to listening to my opinions and ideas. And physically – I love a guy who can dance!
- Traits: Confident, good sense of humour – I list these two together because he must be able to take it when I make fun of him (affectionately!), and also must be secure in knowing that I am his, but also able to display a little jealously every once in a while…;), affectionate but not over the top, thoughtful, romantic (at least BE a romantic…because I’m one!), considerate, a gentleman (door opening, etc), smart when it comes to people as well as book-smart, mature but still playful and gets a kick out of me acting like a child (in the good way, not being childish, eg. “HAHA you said balls!” lol – see, just thinking about that cracks me up…), good at money stuff, cause I’m really not that good at it, non-smoker
- Likes: travel, good food (will at least try anything once), good wine (knowledge of wine a plus), spoiling me for no reason
, sex (obvs. but just thought I should say it anyway. haha), art (ie would take me to new exhibits, and KNOW about them before I do), music & concerts, New York, California and Hong Kong (seeing as I’ll be living in any one of these places in the future), believes in private school for future kids, cooking (for me. or together.), musicals, ballet & the theatre (or at least be open minded to attend them with me), reading, his job – this one is important, because if you’re unhappy with your job you tend to be unhappy generally, pets, chick flicks (even if he pretends not to), taking care of me (in my past relationships I feel like I was always the one taking care of my bf, and for once I want to feel taken care of.) - Doesn’t have a crazy mother. Seriously.
- Doesn’t have a myriad of issues – with the world, with himself, whatever. (I don’t need someone who wants to save the world and works himself up into a stress-case because he can’t. No thanks.)
- He loves me more than I love him – at least a little. I know this sounds petty, but it’s important to me because I hate when I love the guy more, and ultimately those are the relationships that have ended with me broken-hearted. I know that love can’t really be measured, but at the same time in a relationship, you just know who it is, even if it’s never said out loud. (It’s also something my grandma keeps telling me to find – right, because it’s so easy!)
- Most importantly, he must treat me like a Queen, to the point where I feel completely safe, happy and loved without a shred of doubt in him or our relationship, but still be a man (ie not a complete pushover. Those are annoying too.)
I think that’s it for now, but this list is prone to being tweaked/added to every once in a while…;)
What’s on your list??
PS. My friend Leah put that poster up in our living room in our last year of uni. Needless to say, the boys we lived with complained about it all the time. LoL

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April 24, 2008 at 5:11 pm
happy snapper
OMG! Your perfect man sounds like my perfect man! If you manage to find one and he has a twin brother, lemme know!!
ha ha ha ha
April 24, 2008 at 6:01 pm
elise
Can I ask about the crazy mother thing? Have you had any scarring experiences. Please write about it if you have xx
April 24, 2008 at 8:25 pm
Maxie
amen about no crazy mothers… they make life HELL
April 24, 2008 at 11:37 pm
Ashley
That’s a great list! I made a “perfect boyfriend/future husband list” when I was in high school. I lost it somewhere over the next few years, but I have to laugh when I think about the crazy things I put on that list. And about the crazy mother, I totally understand.
April 24, 2008 at 11:49 pm
Little Miss Matchmaker
I love it!!!!!! Perfect!
Crazy mothers are never good, nor are narcisists and workaholics, we would know!
April 25, 2008 at 12:56 am
JenBun
My list is fluid and changing and pretty much includes that I know he respects me but he also wants to tear my clothes off all the time.
There are other things, too.
April 25, 2008 at 6:20 am
quin
hey.
i resem..resent the crazy mother line.
heh.
i do tell my daughters, watch how a man treats his mother, however. if he’s all over her, run. if he ignores her, run.
if he respects her, stay around.
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April 26, 2008 at 8:31 am
Larissa
Yeah, the Crazy Mother factor can ruin everything!
Thank goodness I ended up with a wonderful mother-in-law!
May 4, 2008 at 11:13 pm
Hudson
You do realize that the man you listed is gay…right? Not that I’m complaining, because he fits what I am looking for as well!
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December 11, 2008 at 5:13 am
Jelisa
Whats his name??????
June 16, 2009 at 12:29 pm
Elijah
So if I follow these simple things I will be the perfect guy?
July 22, 2009 at 6:31 pm
geekerthegeek-.-
elijah: yes, but changing your personality all the sudden will never work! Well maybe for a while but you’re just gonna lose that mask you’re putting on
haha lol i think every man wants to be the perfect guy, getting every chick u want lol xD