…that is the question.
So, I’ve been polling my girl friends about what to do about Kevin. They all have different opinions:
Friend #1:
Don’t say anything. Just avoid being alone and/or drunk around him, and never kiss or do anything else physical again, in the case that it leads him on further.
Friend #2:
Admit that I’m in love with someone else, and just tell him. He deserves to know the truth.
Friend #3:
Admit that I’m in love with someone else but it isn’t gonna work out, so I want to give him a chance and see how it goes, but it’s gonna have to go slowly. And let him make up his mind with whether he wants to do that or not.
Friend #4:
Don’t say anything, but if it’s brought up, then just say that I’m not ready for a relationship yet. And if things continue to happen, then they happen.
The truth? The truth is that I can’t commit to him now when I’m in love with someone else because it isn’t fair, but at the same time I really do enjoy his company, and as selfish as it sounds, being with him makes me un-lonely (and helps satisfy my, uh, “needs”…haha). But, I definitely don’t want to lose his friendship, and I know that the saintly thing to do would be to just tell him straight out, but then I’d end up still lonely and miserable, and he probably wouldn’t be as happy either.
Help! What do I do?? I’m having lunch with him tomorrow, and it’ll be the first time I see him since I slept with him, and also the last time I see him before he jets off to the US for Thanksgiving, so I feel like if I should say something, I should say something tomorrow!!

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November 21, 2007 at 12:38 am
Elise
Do what you think you need to. If being straight with him saves a friendship do it
xx
November 30, 2007 at 5:55 am
Rosie
Hey, found your blog thru 20 Somethings on Ning. My thoughts: I’ve always been one for honesty is the best policy. It might hurt for both of you but if you don’t tell him will you feel guilty until you do? Or think about it this way: What if he was doing the same thing to you? Just some questions to ponder.